Updated — December 2021
Since starting shadow work in early 2020, my transformation journey has soared. I write to channel my passion for abuse recovery, feminism, holistic wellness, and inner peace. I hope you feel inspired and empowered!
#5. Stop trying so damn hard.
In the past decade, I’ve been an overachiever, earned over six figures, and completely burned out. In the last four years, I broke into UX, worked with cool startups, and then did big corporate stuff at Google and Facebook. …
After simplifying for eight years, I found peace, and you can too.
If you’re like most people in our capitalist world, slowing down is difficult. I’ve struggled a lot with finding my calm and maxed out my stress levels while pursuing external “success.” Notably, I burned out and quit my “dream job” in tech user experience in early 2020.
Leading up to…
As a 16-year holistic wellness enthusiast, here are my top insights.
Do you feel tired all the time? More often than you’d like to admit? I get it. I’m a sensitive person, and feeling energetic has been a priority since I was 12 years old. …
They changed everything for me — I’m a “red pill”-type person
Remember when you first realized something was wrong with how women are treated? I do. Though I hated “submissive” messaging in Sunday school classes, I got really angry in a college career class.
The female instructor casually shared data about how women earn less than men. Are you kidding me…
Heterosexual relationships have not been great for women.
It’s a Saturday afternoon, and I’m on a first date with a man. Even though I’m very selective about potential partners, we seemed to be clicking. Oh my god, is this happening?! An hour into our chat, I find myself describing feminine repression, trying not to get lost in a…
We can’t do this alone.
When I was in college, my male friendships far outweighed female ones. I got along with men more easily, understood them better, and never felt like we were competing. Eight years later, I’ve become enlightened on the many layers of patriarchal conditioning. …
You’ve already survived hell; you’re stronger than you realize.
I had a Zoom call with an old friend scheduled. We hadn’t talked in months, but she’d always been very kind. Did this friend read my articles on narcissist abuse? Does she know? Will she judge me? This woman knew my abusive family members. Would she believe me?
I synthesized insights from simplicity experts and personal experience.
I distinctly remember the moment I sat with “The 80/20 Principle” book by Richard Koch at a cafe, and it dawned on me just how many areas of my life could be redesigned, simplified. I don’t have to make space for the people or things I “sort of like.” …
What if we all took soul-searching sabbaticals?
Staring out a large window in the skyscraper work lounge at Facebook, I felt lost. Anxiety, listlessness, depression, and disillusionment filled my body. What am I doing here?
For months I’d noticed a reluctance to start each task, but I habitually pushed through it. Earning well over six figures while…
