I hear you, Chris! It’s hard to stop trying to control others, especially since most people in toxic relationships develop codependent tendencies. Devaluing them in my mind helps me a lot with this one.

“They’re a mean abusive person. They don’t experience empathy or remorse. They’re a mean abuser. They don’t experience empathy or remorse.”

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